I really want to watch it but it left theaters here after like a two-week run.

Yeah, I really do not envy OP her Christianity; I’m so glad I was mostly over that phase of my life by the time I started examining my gender and realizing I wasn’t just depressed, but dysphoric.

EDIT: To clarify, absolutely not saying Christianity (or any religion) is “just a phase” for everyone. Just that it certainly was for me, and I’m happy to be past it and to have partially dealt with the trauma from it.

It certainly is in some ways; can’t get through a given week without questioning whether maybe I’m just cis and want to be unique or a binary trans woman in denial. But on the other hand, I do have my feeling of simply not fitting into the gender binary to fall back on, which is there even when gender dysphoria and euphoria are not.

As somebody transfeminine and nonbinary, this really spoke to me. I think part of why it took me so long to figure out I’m trans is that I don’t want to be super femme 90%+ of the time, I just want to throw on jeans and a tee and not be read as male. Like I’m nonbinary, but I want to present as a tomboy or as close to nonbinary on a female base form as I can get, if that makes sense?

Anyways the article was excellent and I’m glad I read it.

When I ask about my gender on StackExchange, people tell me to just use Arch, but I don’t think I’m fully a trans woman?

I did the same thing around the same age (or a little older), and it also took me until my 30s to realize it wasn’t actually a joke.

The hell? I do not understand why anyone would remove the first of those comments, and the second is a bit abrasive but still not moderation-worthy, imo.

I really don’t understand the hate towards Hexbear – sure, some users may be problematically argumentative, but that seems to be true of many instances. Meanwhile, as a trans person, Hexbear was actually one of the first places I felt safe when I started looking for a reddit alternative, and, to me, that means a lot. I’m glad I eventually found Blahaj Zone (both the lemmy and hajkey instances), but Hexbear really does feel like a good, queer-friendly, solidly leftist space, which we need more of on the internet, imo.

Like, we may disagree with their politics at points, but I’ve seen conservative and neoliberal users from other instances being awful to Hexbear users far more often than the other way around. I also think it speaks heavily in favor of Hexbear that some of the anti-Hexbear comments on the previous meta thread were from transphobic users from other instances.

Hexbear leans meme-tankie but on the flipside they’re very supportive of queer people. I don’t agree with them on everything, but I don’t feel unwelcome there either, so I personally disagree with both defederation and the comparison to T_D.

Absolutely wild to me that moving off AWS + setting up the caching server will bring overall costs down by around a factor of ten. So glad y’all are capable of the advanced technical junk, and super thankful that you’re willing and able to host the various blahaj.zone instances!