Aww cute

No lmao

Yeah, but society at large has issues with exceptional gender expressions.

Cis people can struggle with their own gender identity when other cis people force expectations onto them.

The difference is that cis people don’t have to assert a gender different from what they were assigned at birth.

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I’m literally not but you clearly have no interest in understanding the words I wrote, so I’ll just drop it.

practically everybody has been told to behave differently because “boys do X” or “girls do Y”.

I wish people would leave me the fuck alone when they think I’m not being a man correctly.

This is what I mean by ‘on a surface level.’

Oppositional sexism demands that those born in male bodies do masculine things, and those born in female bodies do feminine things. In other words it demands that everybody, not just those who are trans, conform to socially expected performances of gender.

However, cis people are afforded the security in feeling that their birth gender is the one that is ‘correct’ for them.

Cis people largely feel gender entitlement (projecting one’s own perception of gender onto other people, and privileging those perceptions over the way others understand themselves), hence:

A lot of people don’t really care much about what their gender is

Trans people do not get this privilege. Trans people face the same oppositional sexism that cis people do (that all people that exhibit exceptional gender expressions do), as well as having to face cis people’s gender entitlement being pushed onto them.

All this to say the joke is that the subject of the meme is in denial about their transness, and they are assuming that everybody feels the same way. The meme is a transfem centered meme- cis people may not get the joke; however many people DO care about their gender identity, but some identities are privileged over others.

On a surface level, sure, but most cis people never really have to grapple much with their gender identity.

FWIW some people do report their anger and “competitive spirit” becomes less intense after going on HRT for a while. As well as other emotions becoming more intense and more “vibrant.”

From my own experience, I definitely feel a bit more chill. I don’t get aggravated as quickly, and when I do, it doesn’t feel as intense or “hot” as it used to. This could be more that I don’t have as big a hypothetical thorn in my side anymore from alleviating a bit of my dysphoria however. I do cry more easily now, and it feels a bit different when my emotions boil over to that point. It’s more… even? Like the feelings are wider and more gradual or gentle instead of narrow and pointed and intense. Kind of an abstract way to put it I guess but that’s how I visualize them.

You seem well meaning, but this feels dismissive and op specifically requested engagement from transfemmes on hrt.

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It’s not a take, it’s straight transphobia.

You know, I do agree with you for the most part.

Man and woman as concepts feel more or less tangible albeit complex. They’re something I can point to and say, “this is man” or “this is woman.” Whereas femininity and even masculinity feel incorporeal to me to an extent. Certain things are deemed feminine and masculine, yes, but the criteria are ever-changing and being molded to fit a time or place or idea.

I can sorta envision this idea of womanhood for myself, whereas femininity feels like… much more of a vibe? i guess?

She just released a new edition this month, coincidentally.

Have you read Whipping Girl?

Julia Serano goes over the idea and concept of femininity as it relates to ones gender identity quite a bit in the second part - “Trans women, Femininity, and feminism” starting with chapter 10.

This is such a complicated question I feel you may as well have asked ‘What makes a woman/man’.

I guess, to me - femininity means being allowed access to my own vulnerability, to be allowed (or to be expected societally) to emphasize appearance, to be expected to appear frail or to take up little space.

However I also understand that these things are more or less just bullshit societal expectations, and that feminine women and feminine people in general are allowed to be loud, brash, messy, and strong individuals.

But to me femininity is the performance I feel pressured to act out in order to be seen the way I want to be seen. Maybe in the future my perspective will change, but at this moment I personally do not feel ‘allowed’ to be my rightful gender unless I perform the way I’m expected to perform.

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The fix is to just clear your cookies for blahaj.

Right, but in the context of

there’s a little voice in my head telling me to try one just to fuck around

Trying ‘one just to fuck around’ will do next to nothing.

Not a doctor- but…

There’s a reason E is normally prescribed with a testosterone blocker. Small doses of Estradiol will do next to nothing if there’s still a natural level of T flowing through your system.

You’re awesome for this

Congrats!!