All these fuckers are our neighbors and for many of us former employers.

We know exactly how they think, and what they think of us.

Andreesen is the tip of the iceberg.

I found that keeping up with people over video works better when you’re in the same time zone. When I was managing teams at +8 hours and -12.5 relative hours, communication and trust just weakened steadily over time and creative collaboration stalled. Spending a week there in person usually got things unstuck.

I know people on split engineering teams between LA and Seattle who prefer all virtual and it’s worked long term. LA to NY I think would be a heavier lift.

And, of course, this whole discussion is always dominated by software engineers; there are lots of jobs that involve actual manipulation of matter where in person collaboration is essential to communicate skills.

the executives locked themselves into expensive long term leases for their offices and don’t want to feel embarrassed that it’s a wasted cost.

This is exactly what happened at Alphabet.

I was about 15 months in before my doc wanted to give it to me.

It hit me like a hammer so I guess he didn’t botch the timing too much.

I’m kind of doing “multiple parallel dating”, which certainly isn’t swinging, so I call myself poly. But I’ve resisted joining formal “polycules” for exactly the reasons you cite in the final paragraph.

I could read a thousand articles about trans people and it just bounced.

egg_irl hit me from the inside.

Mosh pits are fun. So are hugs.

Sometimes I want/need to go hang out in a hug box/safe space/echo chamber. If that means there’s less content there, that’s a tradeoff I’m fine with.

Hell how many Americans even remember what happened at Abu Ghraib? That got memory holed awfully quickly after pinning it all on one PFC.

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I believe the term in question is a truncation of the word “retardation”, and the usage of said truncation as a suffix to “lib-”.

I am completely cool with the owner of an instance seeing something that concerned her both morally and legally, and cutting it the fuck off.

In general defed doesn’t bother me that much, I can always make an account on lemmynsfw; if you’re using a decent client it’s easy to manage.

Hexbear is a bare-knuckle community that encourages group think and hair trigger mockery (“LIB!” and variations). In general, they bring that mentality wherever they go. It reminds me of the Goons from SomethingAwful in that way: you could spot a group of Goons regardless of the game, site, whatever.

Those communities can be fun (a supporters section at a football match, for example), but you have to go in ready to take a stray punch or two.

I have an account on another instance for when I want to be out in the world and suffer the slings and arrows and look at shitposts on !chapotraphouse. Sometimes I’m in the mood.

But I think part of the intended vibe of blahaj.zone is that it’s somewhere that as highly marginalized people we can come and not expect to have slurs thrown around, 0-100 name calling criticism, etc.

The culture of hexbear is the opposite of that; it’s not about not subscribing to !chapotraphouse, it’s about how the instance approaches the whole idea of online interaction.

Zuck could hospitalize Musk in seconds.

BJJ is no joke.

A lot of them (Alphabet in particular) overinvested in commercial real estate and are now sitting on a huge sunk cost.

Discoloration. I have two areas on my cheeks that don’t blush right any more.

Please don’t use an off the shelf ipl device on your face, you really don’t want blotches.

I got my first lesbian fuckbuddy a couple of months ago and it’s amazing, it’s as much fun as other people always seemed to be having with sex.

It’s good that we are explicitly keeping each other at arm’s length emotionally because I understand u-haul syndrome now.

Very lucky to be able to experience the hormone rush of good sex and experience how it differs from the hormone rush of being in love. Or maybe it doesn’t and I’m just learning to manage it better.

But I wear my old guy clothes and she LOVES it, being a butch lesbian kicks ass. Yeah, the straights call me sir, goes with the territory, doesn’t really bother me any more.

The one who set up the blahaj zone for us ofc!

Using the right tool for the right task is a big part of being a good engineer.

Ow wow, you’re that Ada.