WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]

Glad to hear that. Just want to make sure you aren’t being unkind to yourself.

Like, I’m the sperm donor, not the one who carried them for nine months.

Neither of my moms birthed us and that doesn’t make them any less of moms. And we don’t even talk to the person who birthed us (we probably have talked to our formally anonymous sperm donor more recently and are on better terms with him). You shouldn’t let irrelevant things make you feel like you are less of a mom. If its a compromise for your children, that seems like a good enough reason to accept “dad”, but you shouldn’t feel like you would be an imposter (or you should at least realize those feelings aren’t rational).

I realized I was some flavor of trans about two years ago. At first, I considered myself agender and not cis, but didn’t accept the trans label (that didn’t last long so its still about 2 years either way - I still like the agender label I think, but also consider myself transfem). Started HRT almost 3 weeks ago.

Part of the delay was not sure HRT was right for me. Specifically didn’t know if boobs were something I wanted to deal with, so I tested them out via breast forms, including going cosplay back in November.

Another is I worried about how it would affect my ability to earn money, so I wanted to save up a lot first.

Another reason for waiting is a I wanted to at least come out to my parents and sister before starting (which I still have not done).

Anyways, finally decided to start because we were considering getting a house and if so, that would have delayed savings goals far too long. At the same time, my sister announced being pregnant and I realized I didn’t like the idea of being an uncle.

I still am not certain and wonder if I should quit taking HRT. I don’t really have a reason why I should stop, but given I don’t consider myself a woman, it feels like I’m breaking some sort of rules that I intellectually don’t believe should exist (if someone wants HRT, it shouldn’t matter what their gender is). And of course anxiety related to discrimination is still a thing, particularly given my field of work and the state I’m in. Also, the anxiety of having an appointment for getting HRT (the lack of specific goals and using my very gendered birthname made me feel particularly like an imposter during the appointment) and anxiety starting (despite being really happy about it) I think triggered quite significant feelings of dissociation before I started, so at the time I started, my thoughts were basically “the me of a few days ago decided I should take this, so I’m going to, but I have a hard time feeling like that person was me and I feel disconnected for my current feelings.”

Too bright too. Needs a nerf.

The IRS says you have to report illegal income and pay taxes on them.

The US government provides weapons for the genocide.

One of the main campuses in the protests is opening a campus in Israel, which students are opposing until Israel ends genocide and apartheid.

Many of the campuses donate money to or have partnerships with candidates and organizations that are also complicit in the genocide.

Of course Israel isn’t going to stop genocide because a bunch of college students in the US don’t like it. But that doesn’t mean students have to sit idly as their tuition dollars go to fund genocide.

When I was making that kind of money, I still saved way more than 5%. Granted, after inflation, it is like $11.50 now. Still, 10% would have been pretty easy. 20% would be possible if I didn’t blow money on things like spend $3K on a bike for hobby use. Also, that’s assuming you don’t have unexpected expenses. I lived somewhere where having a car wasn’t necessary, so that made a huge different in budgeting. And when I needed surgery, I was lucky with insurance. Otherwise, that could have easily have eaten up the savings I had.

So 15% is definitely possible… with lots of luck and good circumstances.

People with money usually don’t keep it as plain money though. On average, if you just invest it in S&P500 (assuming historical returns), it’ll be worth at least 4 million after adjusting for inflation after 30 years. 3 million dollars reward for having 1 million dollars. But even if you’re like a gold-standard fanatic and just put it in gold, the same applies.

Al capone was arrested for tax evation. I think one of the famous serial killers or mass murderers got caught because they were pulled over for something like speeding (granted, they probably would have been caught eventually anyways, but it happened a lot quicker).

Long-term consequences can be fun if you make it so. /hj

[pikashocked]

I’m sure prolife transphobes will be changing their opinion on abortion to help avoid the 13% of people regretting having children.

Jesus maybe? At church during the Christmas service. Accidentally dropped it. No clue how much it was worth, but I don’t remember breaking particularly expensive things.

Fear of election loss started sinking in.

Its been something I’ve been considering, but also content with job and wouldn’t want to leave friends/family so not seriously considering it now. I’ll worry about it more when things eventually get worse…

Low-Risk States (AZ, DE, ME, MI, NV, PA, RI, VA, WI): These states have largely refrained from targeting transgender adults, although they haven’t taken extraordinary steps to protect adult transgender rights either. For example, Arizona and Virginia have enacted anti-trans policies affecting youth but, due to state-specific factors, appear unlikely to extend such policies to adults.

Changing icons to color helps me find which ones I’m looking for. Seems weird it defaults to it looking like they’re greyed out because they won’t work on the current selection.

Definitely something that many mention experiencing and different people attribute to various things. I think sometimes though changes are almost sort of a placebo effect, where HRT acts as a justification to express emotions that have been suppressed when masking. Also anger that exists as a result of the masking has no reason to exist without the masking, so if you start see yourself a bit more like your true self, the self-frustation may go.

Personally I saw some effects people sometimes attribute to HRT (not really the emotions you mention) simply as a result realizing I’m not actually technical cis long before starting. I haven’t been on HRT long enough (only 3 days) to say how it might effect me, but even if it just helps with dissociation, it would likely have that affect of making emotions feel more vibrant just simply because they’re feel like they’re my emotions. But time will tell.

No clue if they ship to Europe/what the cost of shipping are, but I’ve liked EnFemme’s offerings, but they’re not cheap. Tried a few other things, but its what has worked the best for me. Doubling or tripling up on basic panties can also work to some degree and probably a lot cheaper and more broadly available.

Given the context, it would be terms of legally transitioning someone’s gender marker.

No clue how true it is. I think this is the proposal for the law, but I don’t know German, so finding the actual bill seems challenging: https://perma.cc/DML8-XWED

S2 paragraph 3 seems to say they may choose 1 or more names, but idk the nuances of the language to know if that means choosing 0 new names is not allowed?

I’ve just started doing dressing in ways more non-conforming for my AGAB, but I didn’t realize my interest until after I moved out from my parents*. First just like hair clips here, leggings there. With my sister (and her boyfriend and her best friend), I just showed up in cosplay as a female character once for Ren Fest. No warning. No explanations.

*technically I was caught back when I was in middle school, but I had no clue back then…