Thanks!

Maybe you haven’t noticed it, but many people are deeply irrational.

Thinking about why you’re fearful to ask her out is a way that you’re managing to avoid asking her out. Just ask her out OP. You’ll feel better afterwards.

Yes, yes you have.

Why do I suddenly feel a meme coming on? 😅

Is it all C?

I feel sorry for the guy now. He’s in over his head and trying to defend himself ineffectively. And now a bunch of lemmings are mocking him too, which I get, but it’s still fucked up. Humans suck.

Anon’s hopelessness suggests he is clinically depressed. Also, I’m wondering about past experiences where anon felt mocked and ashamed. Perhaps anon is depressed because of an attachment trauma history?

“Enshitification”

I haven’t met gates and I agree these days he comes across pleasantly, but perhaps you are not old enough to remember stories of what he was like in his 30s and 40s when Microsoft was younger. He was a tyrant and viscously anticompetitive. As a husband my understanding is that he cheated on his wife (not uncommon I know but still hurtful). He might have become a somewhat better person, maybe, but he certainly wasn’t one when he was making his fortune.

The first time I opened vim (it was probably just vi at the time) I couldn’t exit it and had to shut down the computer by holding down the power button (!) to regain control of the machine. It took a while before I tried it again. Ultimately nano felt like it was for kids and emacs felt like an even worse option than vi so I memorized a few sequences, eg :q!, :wq, how to enter the insert mode and how to exit it and simple edit commands like dd and x and this gave me enough proficiency to get by.

Most all the terminal commands require prior study before they become easy to use. Its because Unix was created by engineers rather than by ui/ux design professionals.

You’re a perfectly normal man who has developed a social anxiety disorder. I might say that the cause was that you were traumatized, but if so I’d qualify it by saying it was a “small t” rather than a big one. All trauma has a similar structure to it but it is useful to differentiate between ordinary and extraordinary events that cause it to happen. Anyway, totally and boringly normal. You are not a loser, just a guy whose anxiety and shame have been turned up to 11 and subsequently has become avoidant of relationships.

Anxiety is perpetuated by avoidance. The more you avoid, the more mysterious and apparently dangerous that which you avoid will appear. The way out of it is to confront your fear by (in this case) asking women you find a bit interesting out for a date. When you do this your anxiety is going to ramp up fiercely. That’s your anxious part trying to “keep you safe” just like when a dog barks at the mailman. The “mailman” (eg., women) aren’t really dangerous but your “dog” thinks they are and so will growl and put you in the mindset to run away. When this happens, tell your anxious part that he is a good boi and a good “watchdog”, but also tell him that he isn’t in possession of the facts (and how could he be? He’s just a “dog”!). Tell him you’ve got this and then follow through with the dating. It will get easier with practice.

You’ve got this OP. You aren’t weird (just anxious and ashamed like half the population of the world). You just need to push through your anxiety by doing the thing you are afraid to do.

My speculation is that they paid Sutskever a lot of money to go away and keep his mouth shut

Exactly. They exist to give legal cover so that the risk of wrongful termination lawsuits is minimized for the employer

Yes it is unfortunately common. The family members align in their identification of the scapegoat and their cohesion influences the involved therapists who do not realize the larger picture. The victims are themselves both traumatized and also inculcated family members so it is fairly common that the scapegoats do not realize how fucked up things are until they’re older. Incest families are often highly invested in a family ideal that both hides the ugliness and also enables it to flourish (because our golden boy would never do anything like that!). When the scapegoat finally figures it out and tries to tell the truth they are shut down by the defenders of the family ideal. It is easier to shun the truth teller than to accept that the family system is rotten and work to reform it. Also those who are privileged within the family frequently see nothing to gain by admitting wrongdoing and so don’t. It is as it is with any sort of privilege at the societal level. Those who have it tend not to see it and then resist giving it up even when the weight of evidence that harm is being done is large.

There is a post on lesswrong which compiles the accusations made by the sister. Having worked with many incest victims, family scapegoats and Cinderellas I’ll say the story is familiar to what I’ve heard before and therefore credible.

Sure, if they can build a data set of well tagged emotional content they’ll be able to train their machine to detect and distinguish the emotion in subsequent human samples, but that is not the same thing as a feeling machine.

See my comment above. In my experience, third party lightning cables stop working after a few weeks.

I’m genuinely not trying to be an apple hater. My family all have iphones and I’m constantly needing to purchase new cables as they constantly stop working. If apple is not causing this to occur via some software lockout then please help me understand why this occurs. It does not occur when I buy third party usbc cables.

Apple will probably cripple the usb-c interface so that if you buy third part cables they stop working in two weeks just like third party lightning cables do currently.