I see more racism, sexism and other bigotry than before. Although there certainly was a lot of that back then as well. Also bots.

It’s also just preference, I like your hairstyle and think you look great. Max femininity isn’t everyones goal but still valid of course

I honestly appreciate the effort, and I hope that it does indeed help. It’s reassuring to know that you guys are trying to solve the problem.

I’m not sure I understand your angle here. Drama around blahaj protecting trans people is not on us, but on the people that are ignorant on the need for such protection. I see a lot of ignorant, sometimes mildly transphobic comments from other instances that flood any trans points of view here and I think that our top priority should be to prevent that and create a real safe space, not to cater to those instances where those comments stem from. I think any action to make this space more exclusive to trans(questioning) people is a good move. And I honestly don’t care if some ignorant people start creating drama around it.

I’m not sure if this change is a real solution though (it would require very proactive moderation) but it’s worth a try. Imo the best solution is to defederate from huge offender instances (.world for example)

Your curls are beautiful, but managing them is hard. It takes a while to find out which products work, so you could experiment a bit. It looks like you currently don’t have any layers in your hair, which makes the style look a bit bland. Going to a hairdresser and getting some proper layers would probably do wonders. And as someone else said, a ponytail with your hair would look really nice.

This is why it’s important to have spaces (nearly) exclusively for trans people to share their experiences. Cis people are often unaware of their biases and share their experiences thinking it will help when it’s often harmful. Especially on blahaj lemmy there’s lots of cis people and when they come across trans content they feel inclined to chime in. It’s not necessarily a bad thing but when the cis replies are overwhelming the trans perspectives then imo it defeats the purpose of a trans/lgbtq community

You did so well, and I’m really proud of you. I don’t know how you can change your situation. There are people out there who are able to see and appreciate your achievements but I get that it’s really hard to find them. Tbh most people suck but you are awesome and deserving of love ❤️

The problem with that thread was that the admin kept arguing and trying to educate trans people on transphobia. If they didn’t know about JKR’s transphobia then they shouldn’t have kept on arguing as long as they have.

Putting in the energy to make well-rounded arguments in a discussion and educating a person who clearly has no idea what they’re talking about does not seem like a nightmare to me. I’m honestly pretty glad that they did that.