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A real relationship isn’t rooted in sex. It’s a nice bonus, but when you’re both old and grey, you better damn well hope you have more in common than just fucking since fucking is out of the question.
Sex is a nice bonus for people who like it and who have partners who are sexually giving and kind, but the majority of human relationships are rooted in everything outside of sex so you’re already doing right by focusing on the rest.
Sex is a footnote in life, compared to actually needing to know, understand, and care for your partner.
Also, just because you’re not motivated by sex doesn’t mean you can’t have it. I have a friend who likes sex, but is basically a practicing celibate because he has no interest in pursuing it. If it happens, he’ll enjoy it, but he’s not sex-driven, it doesn’t drive his decision making, so it doesn’t happen very often.
And I think the only reason people are so sex obsessed is because they’re from a sexually repressed society.
So we’ll have to agree to disagree on that one.