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  • RedSeries@lemmy.worldtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•I couldn't know myselfEnglish
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    10 months ago

    This rings so true with me and my experiences too. I didn’t start transitioning until I was 33 because of this stigma, and I have similar problems separating reality with this perverted portrayal of transness I grew up with.

    This post makes me feel a bit better and a little less alone. Thank you for taking the time to post it. I love you, stranger on the Internet. I’m happy you’ve found yourself.

  • RedSeries@lemmy.worldtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is There a Community for Honest Discussion of Gender Dysphoria?English
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    1 year ago

    Here’s a good resource: http://genderdysphoria.fyi/

    You need to understand how often people ask questions that seem to come from a place of ignorance but genuine curiosity and then take that discussion to tell trans folks that they are wrong. It happens so much that it’s the main way that transphobes try to infiltrate spaces meant for trans folks.

    My honest response is to check that website out. If you are asking about this in trans spaces, bring zero opinions to the table and accept what is said back to you without debate. Debating trans folks’ existence is something that is forced upon them in their own spaces by malicious people asking and framing questions just like you’ve described.

    It’s hard to take the “enlightened centrism” stance seriously when I see it used as an excuse. So many centrists tell trans folks that their identity is wrong and that they are mentally ill or chose this “lifestyle”. As if they want to be trans. As if they like feeling scared and being told they’re wrong about something as fundamental as their identity.

  • RedSeries@lemmy.worldtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•clothing recs
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    1 year ago

    I’ve had good luck with Torrid, especially if you find yourself in the plus size women’s category.

    As for shoes, if you mean a size 15 men’s, I think you’re going to have an incredibly hard time finding the women’s equivalent (16.5). I had some luck with Amazon as a size 13 men’s (14.5 women’s), but the higher you go the less options are on there. It might be a good idea to aim for more unisex options from men’s large footwear retailers.