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Cake day: July 4th, 2023

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  • There’s no ethical consumption under capitalism. And yet, we’re still forced into capitalism, with little choice but to participate or starve. You can object to a system and say that it’s unethical, but also necessarily play into that system.

    We all gotta eat. Long as there’s our current form of capitalism, we all gotta pay rent (or mortgage). Until those needs relax, we’re essentially saying “pick between your needs and being a good person.” One of our strongest drives is to survive, and so if the only way for some to survive is off the backs of others, it’s the inevitable outcome.

    Of course we should all be striving to change this. Effective change comes from slow, repeated effort though, not just fruitlessly chasing an ethical job. If you just stay where you are, then that’s fine. Do what you can from within, safely. We all do that, and we’ll slowly steer this ship.


  • You’re going to have a vocal minority that hates you regardless of anything you do, and they will find whatever insecurities you have and dig at them, because they know it hurts.

    I see a ton of people here, giving you advice and support. It’s so easy to forget about all of those positive voices when the few hurtful voices are so loud and so very painful. Try not to focus on those, and focus on the more numerous voices cheering for you.

    I don’t have any advice for your looks. I’m a cis gendered straight guy with about as opposite of hair and build as you as can be hahah. I think listening to some of the other great advice here about focusing on one thing at a time, small changes, etc will go a long way. Once you build a few things you feel good about, your confidence will grow and that will carry you beyond what any advice will.

    Good luck, my friend.





  • You’re blind to the progress you’ve made, because it’s slow, and because you’ve convinced yourself it isn’t there. Keep going, every day there’s going to be reason to struggle. Your brain’s going to be an asshole, but you’re still going, still struggling, still progressing. Eventually, you’ll be able to quiet the shittier internal voices, and start talking to yourself like you deserve to. Love yourself, you’re going through the shit right now, but you’re ~still going~

    Happy to see you post again, even if it’s not under the best circumstances. You got this, bud.









  • Reminds me of Jung’s theory around The Gaze, and how by ourselves we are our own subjects, capable of authoring our own paths, but as soon as another being is introduced and we’re subject to their gaze, their own aspect of being a subject necessarily forces some objectification upon us (and us on them). It’s interesting theory, and a good examination of why some people feel so incredibly uncomfortable with others around.