Look, Identity is what u identify as. If you identify differently then that’s ur new identity. If You say you are a trans woman and had a femboy phase where you were in denial, than your identity is a tran woman who was always a trans woman but was previous in denial. That’s a valid identity.
So let’s say there is a amab who likes feminine things. They get rejected by geneeal society, but feels comfy in queer settings. But now people say: Hey! Ur trans! Take hormones it will make you happy! There’s two ways this can go, but if it wasn’t completly their own decision but peer pressure. And peer pressure which changes your body for live is extremely toxic.
I understand that you are mad that there wasn’t somebody who told you: Hey, you are an egg, just accept yourself as trans, its okay to be trans. I wish that it was that easy. But after starting hormones, sometimes there are doubt’s “what if I’m not really tans”? etc. And if you can push the decision to other people that just makes it worse. " I only started hormones because of the other person, she told me I would be happier. I’m not happier, I hate her"
Being trans is about taking your future, your body, your Identity in your own hands. Giving a big fuck to society and proclaim yourself to the world. Its not about saying “this makes you trans”, " that makes you trans", its about “this makes me happy”
And please write stop writing that aggressive. I’m attacking your post, not you as a person. I will probably stop responding because it stresses me out.
Hey there, first of all, calm down. Sexauality and Gender is weird and everyone has different experiences of their own gender kinks etc. Being into some kind of kink, like sissy hypno porn or transformation porn doesn’t make you trans, BUT a few trans femm people I’ve talked to, including myself have had similar experiences regarding our own sexuality.
Roughly two years ago when I was 23, I was in a similar place, where I suddenly realized that my kinks might be much more than kinks and it really confused and scared me. Because I had suppressed my own gender and sexuality and didn’t allow myself to experience attraction to other women, because it made me feel like a man, it all came crashing down for me when I started questioning things.
A really helpful Article I found explained a lot of my experiences, maybe it helps you as well: https://medium.com/@kemenatan/its-just-a-fetish-right-91cb0a4e261 What you need to know is the following:
The last thing is the hardest. And you can only know this if you play around. If you want to figure out if you are trans femm, or non-binary or cis-male or anything else, you need to play around with your gender expression and find similar people. See what fits you, see what makes you happy. Try different pronouns, try makeup etc., seek out other queer people, they will always accept gender questioning people, or maybe join a kink meetup.
And if you just find out, that these things make you really horny but you don’t want this in your day to day life, that’s totally fine. And if you find out that you want to start hormones that’s also okay. And if you are on hormones and want to stop that’s also okay. Don’t ask yourself “am I really trans?”, ask what you want. Do I want to be perceived as woman (or non-binary person)? Or something else? Hang in there, questioning your gender is super scary, but it will geht better.
And feel free to ask further questions :)