Accept those thoughts as a part of you, at least when they come to the surface. Try to picture yourself as two persons, one persons is the one you want to be and the other is all the traits you don’t like about yourself. Try to picture the latter just sitting in a chair, loudly complaining like a Karen. Don’t pay any attention to them, just let them rage in silence. The point is not to fight these thoughts because then, you already acknowledge that they hold power over you. But you shouldn’t dwell on them either, just acknowledge them, then let them fade into nothingness. In time, this person’s whining and screaming will get more and more silent, until it will eventually become just a whisper. It will never truly go away, but it won’t make you question yourself anymore.

I know it sounds stupid and what you’d expect a shrink to say, but it really does work. It takes a lot of learning to let go of stuff though.

Extra database calls, running extra logic to check if you’re blocked. That sort of stuff I guess. It does make sense, compute, storage and network resources can be very expensive if you host on cloud providers like Azure or AWS.