Hugucinogens

I mean, they didn’t bother you guys.

The guy was just cold, and the gal had a personal moment. Not their fault, that you two little kids were scared of strangers.

Kidding aside, and assuming what you’ve written is neither internet-talk nor standard schizophrenia tendencies, it might be carbon monoxide poisoning. It was a phenomenon, with haunted houses very often just having faulty heaters of some kind, causing hallucinations in the right doses.

Thanks, the thrift idea is probably pretty good. And, as long as something is inside my house, it’s plenty safe, so I don’t worry about that.

My actual style, slowly is shifting towards a style between punk and hippie that does exist here (we have a couple of… I think in English they’re called squats? Occupations? People take over public buildings for protest, and live in them long term as small semi-communes), with long hair, loose-fitting short sleeved dress shirts, short jeans and piercings.

To be perfectly honest with you, my masc expression is enjoyable as fuck.

But, maybe, for that reason, and because of my sense of what non-binary is… This “slight femininity” is not feminine to me. It’s a well balanced, healthy masculinity.

And I love this part of myself.

So yeah. I’m more struggling with gender roles, than aesthetics themselves. But god knows I’d enjoy playing around with the simple joys of it all, in my home at least.

Thanks for the recommendations and the site, by the way!

I have absolutely 0 idea, I don’t know how to name nearly any style whatsoever.

I need at least a bit of plausible deniability, at least for going outside, because my town is pretty backwards.

Even my favourite way of putting it up in the house alone, which is in a 10-15-degrees-above-horizontal ponytail, but sideways instead of backwards, which makes me feel really cute, is not really a style I can wear outside.

I guess the feeling I’d like to get, is this, being cute and bubbly.

Honestly, now that I think about it, my expectation to wear these outside before you even tell me, is dumb. Just gimme the cutest, girliest, bubbliest style(s?) you got, for exploration and euphoria.

That is correct, I remember the discourse and comparison between raloxifene and tamoxifen. Their existence sounds very cool.

Thanks a lot!

Pretty long. Curliness makes it not show its full length, and it still hangs below the shoulders. Brushed straight, it just about reaches the end of the ribcage

Ok yeah, I have absolutely no idea where to start other than a feel of how “some ways to put my hair up make me euphoric”, so I’d love to talk about it. The styling specifically. I don’t have make up and it’s scary 🥲

Yeah, I am considering it, when I get some more financial stability.

Specifically, about a new-ish (read: not very well researched yet) hormone, which has estrogen effects all over the body (and mentally), except the breasts where is produces significantly reduced growth (I think F1nn5ter is using it for his transition and was talking about it, though I didn’t learn about it from him so I don’t know what he said). (Imma look for its name later, and come back to write it if it’s hard to find)

I feel weird about these kinds of things people say.

I get it’s coming from a kind place, and I guess that for some people it might help and give them strength to keep going, but for me… It feels like being coddled.

Let me make my position very clear, I’m talking about the conflation of what you are with how you look.

Not all women look femme. And while OP has expressed in other comments that she has feminine characteristics (while she discounts them, despite being important (hey OP, a feminine voice is a Very feminine thing to have, it might contribute a lot to you being seen as a femboy)), you haven’t seen how she looks in order to call how she looks ‘femme’.

On top of everything else, people could still be in the process of becoming what they want to look like. I personally prefer to hear others’ honest impressions, in order to understand how to better change, if I so desire. I guess there’s a need for both feedback and validation, and I prefer that each person give of what they actually have to give, what they actually do think.

So, there was a community called “non voters”, created by MindTraveller?

Ada locked it down for not confirming with the spirit of the instance (I’m going to shallowly read into the name of the community, and say that the lock seems fair, from the outside).

Then, it reads to me like MindTraveller made another community, which was also taken down, and got him banned along with it.

Why did those things happen? Why was a second community made? Why was it banned? Why are you claiming that it was an unfair ban?

Honestly, if those points aren’t clarified, Ada appears to be really reasonable from a bystander’s perspective.

As someone who has absolutely no idea what is going on:

Can you provide sources for the things you’re saying?

A raw opinion for its opinion’s sake… I’m not sure it’s a fitting post for something of such gravity, in the instance’s meta community.

I’m about 101% sure it’s possible, ±1.1%

Even to the (insufficient, overblown) extent that it happens, lifting “the poor” Han Chinese out of poverty by putting other populations (Uighurs) under slave labour instead, is not the moral win you’re implying.

If an ethnic cleansing is part of the requirements, to stop committing humanitarian atrocities towards “the poor”, that’s still an atrocity.

Disclaimer, the USA, just like every authoritarian state, is also disgusting and criminal.

I’m getting the sense that you didn’t actually watch the whole video, because your only two points in this comment,

In the absence of IP laws, creatives would be able to create their works, but they’d also be competing against companies that have the resources to monetize, influence the general public, and kill the franchise through poor choices.

And

It’s really important to know that the vast majority of people aren’t going to have the goodwill to tip or otherwise support free works, and it’s even less likely if a large company does enough marketing to overshadow an artist.

, are answered during the video, and I don’t see you arguing the points made by him, you’re just straight up stating the opposite.

And your first point,

Right now, a majority of creatives don’t own their IP in the legal sense, and they can’t stop large companies from milking their works dry as a result.

, is about how the current system doesn’t work to protect actual artists, yet does work to protect large IP-pimping companies.

“Reasonable control” is only possible in the legal sense, not the real sense, so I doubt artists care about it, outside of monetisation, which is what we’re attempting to replace.

Right now as we are speaking, the art of thousands upon thousands of those creators is being stolen constantly by legally gray AI scraping by huge companies, or illegally by smaller merch leeches.

The internet makes data protection impossible.

The law, only prevents the most egregious kinds of ‘monetisation with someone else’s art’, and is unable to stop the rest, for practical reasons.

If artists didn’t have to worry about being compensated enough… Would they still want to have “reasonable control”? Would we still “risk” them being “demotivated”, from being unable to forbid others specifically from making money with their ideas?

I think the human drive to create isn’t that neurotic. I think this kind of “demotivation” only happens for the kind of human who has been abused for years by the rules of the absurd economy we live in. And that’s what we’re saying should change.

Hey hey now. Don’t hate the companies themselves. They’re playing the legal game in the exact, only way the rules allow it to be played. If they don’t, the law and the shareholders fuck them up instead.

Edit: I guess tone is hard to convey through text, so let me be clear:

Companies bad.

But also:

Just hate the copyright law itself, directly. Its only reason for existence is so rich fucks get richer, safer, and should be just abolished.

(45 minute video by Uniquenameosaurus, who also has done an incredible series of videos on the practical ethics of media piracy, with a focus on anime as a jumping off point).

In case it’s not obvious to anyone reading, fitgirl is not a working out guru, and don’t Google her directly, her site has 50 bajillion copycats with malware. Go to your neighborhood’s friendly piracy community, and look for her in the guides.

Honestly, it sounds to me like he just really wasn’t present in the moment.

I just cannot believe he would intentionally do such a thing, if he was aware of the entire situation, given your previous interactions. I might be projecting, (for I’ve been in such situations, and it was horrible for everyone involved), but I believe he was strongly tuned out somehow. Dissociated, either because of other things in his life at the time, or because of the date itself.

I think, no matter the cause, that’s still a bad sign for a date, he was not in a situation to pay attention to you, which was not a good thing at all.

If you feel some kind of empathy for that, or if you have any degree of interest, you could literally ask him. I think it’s good and proper to ask what was going on, about a time you were hurt, assuming you want further association with someone.

Otherwise, as a rule, I believe other people’s minds are kinda unknowable, and Very unreliable (we make mistakes all the fucking time), so I would not take it personally. I’d be willing to bet, it was not meant to be any kind of slight to you, or any intentional message. He probably just fucked up, and you should probably let it go, and move on.

To be clear, I don’t think there’s a right answer about whether you try to connect with him again or move on. Whichever you honestly feel you want, in your gut, is probably right.

I can’t advise you on anything that happened on the date itself, those are entirely yours and person-specific.

Assuming that you are not interested in anything with him at all, and just want to properly reject him, I strongly recommend not ghosting him fully, and instead give a kind but firm and clear rejection.

You don’t have to go into detail explaining. Especially after mutually keeping distance for that long, it’s clear that there was no spark between you, and you can just say something along those lines. “Sorry, I didn’t feel the chemistry, and I really feel like we don’t match. But I wish you happiness.”

For those last couple questions you ask… My opinion is that they’re are no rules.

1. Guys being expected to pay feels slimy to me, but paying itself can be good, like a gift, especially if you reciprocate and pay for something else another time.

2. The gal asking for what would make her happy in terms of which shop to go to… Should be an absolute given. If you feel like you’re not gonna have fun somewhere, recommend the better option, absolutely.

I mean, you’re not wrong. Just a bit of an asshole.

Based