My father just died in his sleep. He had passed by the time the paramedics arrived.

They still did their best, which I am very grateful for, but they even an entire trash bag full of used instruments that were stuffed under the bed for some reason

I’m glad that I found it sooner over later but it’s mildly infuriating that they just discarded their medical waste under his bed.

(NSFW some blood)

I’ve been taking care of him for over 5 years and it’s made things a lot harder for me, seeing all of that all over.

  • popemichael@lemmy.sdf.orgOP
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    I understand and I know that they were focused elsewhere, but the trash bag was stuffed far under the bed with everything spilling out…

    I reached for what I was and was, as I couldn’t see, and my hand got covered in blood and other fluids.

    They were here waiting on the medical examiner for over an hour, so they must have forgotten about it somehow.

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      Ugh that sucks. I can only guess that it was an oversight but you’re absolutely right to be bothered. As you suggest, likely a moment of “get this bag out of the way”. Still upsetting for sure.

      While it was thankfully brief I also was part of end of life care for my Dad and despite the anguish I took great comfort from knowing his last hours were with loved ones nearby and in his own bed. I wish that the knowledge you were there and helped brings you solace in your grief. You were there when it mattered most. hug I wish you and your family peace.

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        1 year ago

        Thank you very much. I really appreciate your kind words.

        In this world, I only had my dad and grandmother. I took care of them both for years. My grandmother passed in February, and dad’s mind just imploded. She was more “smother” over a mother, so he was in the process to learn how to adult despite having severe paranoid schizophrenia

        He was doing so well too, I taught him how to buy clothing and how to use uber.

        He was for sure happy when he passed as I kept him reassured that he was safe and “the government doesn’t know where you are”