Frociaggine is not a word that refers to a person. Frocio is, and I mentioned that while it is sometimes used without hatred, the latter is more generally a slur. Frociaggine/frociata is also very used to describe something flamboyant. It is a bit heavier than that, but definitely far from “fag…tness”.

I explained this already, but you didn’t want to read " the essay", so here I am repeating myself.

fact, the fact that they use it so casually is just more evidence of how deeply entrenched queerphobia

Or maybe it’s evidence that cultures and languages are differently and evolved differently, and not everything has to model to the English (American) version?

I already made an example for insults which are used completely in a friendly way, you can have other examples in religious people god-swearing (something that doesn’t even exist in most languages). The fact that while you don’t belong to the culture, do not speak the language but pretend to be authoritative about what the language is or should be is honestly hilarious. Now, is the pope queerphobic? Very likely, but because it’s the head of a queerphobic institution who has a queerphobic posture since ever, not because he used frociaggine.