• HardlightCereal@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There’s nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean?

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      1 year ago

      Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you”

      “Come on tell me”

      “Haha no”

      That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in”

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        1 year ago

        Man, I don’t understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing

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          1 year ago

          I don’t think there’s anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community … Or whatever the fuck they call it these days…

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            1 year ago

            Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever “trick” this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying “I AM VERY BORING”. I don’t get how this attracts anyone.