I may have ask this before but im not too sure.

So it leems i wont be able to get into theripy anytime soon for some dumb reasons and also some family members problems have to be taken care of first like surgerys and whatnot.

I have depression pretty badly which kinda runs in the modern age like a plague and im not sure what to do with it, im not even sure what to do now or in the future. i feel very lost and stuck while being in some sort of werid loop. it dosent help how i have autism which also stinks. it feels like i always want things instanly or my interest changes every day, which is prety annoying and im limited in many ways.

what can i do to help with depression and life?..

    • Moonguide@lemmy.ml
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      1 year ago

      Can second this. I’ve recently been diagnosed with it but I know I’ve had it for years. The one time that I was doing fine was when I really got into the gym. Not obsessing over nutrition, just keeping an eye on what I was eating and what I could lift. It got bad once again when I had to stop going to focus on college.

      Got back into it a month back and the difference isn’t night and day, but it certainly helps.

  • wildeaboutoskar@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Things that help me:

    • Having a routine- every Sunday I walk into town and get a nice coffee/cake and read for a while and just be around people. If I stay inside for too long I will start to self isolate.

    • Hobby- I go to a couple of choirs during the week. It helps me get out of the house and it’s an activity that stops me dwelling on things. You’re usually too busy focusing on the music to think of anything else. Singing also helps you regulate your breathing which is supposed to help with relaxation and sleeping.

    • Spend time in or around nature, even if that’s a pet. Being around green space can help ground you. Being around animals can be a massive boost. Go to the park with a book and spot dogs.

    • Medication - this has helped me more than anything but isn’t for everyone. I also had a few rounds of therapy but didn’t get loads out of it, but it may well work for you.

  • AnakinSandlover@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I speak as someone who has been able to somewhat manage my own issues with depression.

    • One immediate thing you can do is to cut out major sources of sugar from your diet. Give it 3 days (I notice the effects with less than 2 days) at least. Mental health and physical health are interconnected, so one bad thing affecting your metabolism is for sure going to have an effect on your brain (your brain’s metabolism and ability to regulate energy too).
    • Get enough sleep and exercise, as well as meditation. For meditation you can start with short sessions and make sure to keep in mind that there is no “failing to focus/meditate” as it’s all part of the journey/process.
    • As others have said, sunlight.
    • Socialization. I personally don’t get enough time out of the house but I notice the effects immediately when I do.

    The next two tips are from the book “Feeling Good” by Dr. David Burns. I haven’t finished the book yet but have made use of what I’ve read, and some that have helped me the most are:

    • The “Self-Approval Method” - everyday, count the number of things you did or anything about yourself that you approve of or are proud of. Hopefully as you get more used to it that number will rise over time.
    • The “Triple-Column Technique” - on the first column you will write down your automatic thoughts (the negative, self-defeating thoughts that seem to come naturally to people with depression); on the second column you will list down the cognitive distortions you can identify from the first column (look up a list of cognitive distortions, there are about 10 of them); and on the third column write down your rebuttal to the automatic thought but make sure it is realistic and not wishful thinking.

    That’s all I can say, and I hope you get better! All the best!

  • crashspeeder@lemmy.fmhy.mlEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Forgive me, but I’m going to give you a “non-answer”. The reason is that depression is very personal, and you should probably only get advice on your specific situation by a licensed therapist. Even a licensed therapist isn’t good enough for some people, and they’ll need to find the right therapist, and even then they may require medication.

    With that out of the way, I’ll tell you that you probably need to forgive yourself a bit more than you currently do. If you’re high strung, rigid, and tend to be harsh with yourself for failure (which only makes depression worse, especially when you end up feeling down while beating yourself up over it), then the only way to break that cycle is to be genuinely forgiving with yourself. What some people have said is pretend it’s not you in the situation, but a friend. What advice would you give that person?

    A very smart man I know once told me that we tend to judge others based on their actions and outcomes, and ourselves based on our intentions. That means that if we didn’t mean to hurt somebody then we can be a bit more dismissive than if somebody hurt us but didn’t mean it. That said, it can also cut the other way. If you intended to succeed at something but didn’t, you can beat yourself up over it. Nobody around you would be any the wiser about your shortcomings or failures, but you might be likely to draw attention to it and judge yourself harshly based on your (lack of) results.

    I probably wrote this mostly for myself and my situation, but hopefully it helps you a bit. There’s no plan for life. We just all do the best we can with the hand we’re dealt in the situation we happen to be in at the time. Hell, most of people’s success comes down to luck, not hard work. To make things worse, neither success nor money will make you more happy with yourself. They may help, but they won’t do it on their own.